Tipping in Unknown Parlors

[marsean]

How about this one? For encounters with a new provider or an unknown spa where you feel you will get stuck negotiating extras, first try sign language to indicate what is up so nothing need be said. But if somehow confusing or does not cut it… Try three letter acronym “SSS”. Standard Sexual Services. Connotation being each level at Standard tipping. As in posed question: "Provide SSS?" , or just “SSS?”…Once used to it, avoids wasting time with unnecessary negotiations. Negotiations are problematic wood softeners. Answer to question could be: "What do you want?", or "this but not that", or no! Use the KISS principle: Keep it Simple Sailor! If this is heard enough by providers and clients it would save everybody time and angst.

[jack1979]

You are assuming these girls or ladies are more learned. Keep it simple, use you fingers... 4 fingers = $40 and a little hand, mouth, or pointing usually conveys the intent.

[marsean]

Originally Posted by jack1979

You are assuming these girls or ladies are more learned. Keep it simple, use you fingers... 4 fingers = $40 and a little hand, mouth, or pointing usually conveys the intent.

Did you read the first part of my post? I mentioned to try that first but resort to other suggestion if the basic sign language does not cut it. If phrase were widely used it would cut down time and confusion with some who don't respond to sign language and otherwise would drag things out to become long negotiation. Who wants that?

[Workswithwood]

Back in the day all you had to do was grab the laundry ladies ass on the way in and tell her you want everything.
Either you got your answer of NO right there and your money handed back or she would parade the crew thru while you undressed!
Those were the good old days

[NicetoKnow]

Originally Posted by Workswithwood

Back in the day all you had to do was grab the laundry ladies ass on the way in and tell her you want everything.
Either you got your answer of NO right there and your money handed back or she would parade the crew thru while you undressed!
Those were the good old days

I always find a way to make physical contact while taking the walk back to the room or shower. Touching a shoulder or arm on my escort can be a simple way to show your intent, and still provide an OUT for the provider. Of course, a hug upon being greeted can go a long way. YMMV, but I like a simple expressive touch (and good introduction conversation) with a new provider to lay the groundwork.

[marsean]

Execellent Suggestions guys!!! Some kind of body contact or light conversation with Eye Contact really goes long way to set mood. Of course that needs to be done for a receptive mood. My suggestion was for situation where even doing those things it became evident that some sort of negotiation was desired, even if having already shown sign language, if that was not clear, to head negotiations off and keep things moving with still no confusion leading into fun time. Of course once you know a provider or even place sometimes any negotiation is not needed.

[RoyalCrown]

A gentle touch on their leg as they massage you normally get's the ball rolling.

[marsean]

Originally Posted by RoyalCrown

A gentle touch on their leg as they massage you normally get's the ball rolling.

Yes indeed, that is almost always a signal that You want to do more. My suggestion has more to do with getting to the DOING and also AVOIDING any real negotiations that may come up. If she is worth the effort to get any extras I always let my hands do the walking followed by signing what is wanted and proceeding hopefully without any discussion. If they (new one to me) starts verbalizing and I want it, I would repeat signs. If that doesn't work I would try saying "SSS?" and repeat signs. May take a while for it to be understood. If they ask for explanation, it won't be long getting response.

[Lakers1990]

Just pinch their ass when they are taking you to the room. They will get the hint

[marsean]

Originally Posted by warrior7890

Just pinch their ass when they are taking you to the room. They will get the hint

So the thread was not about them getting the hint. All good suggestions here for touch and looks and sign language. With those they "get" the hint. It was about avoiding verbal negotiations for tipping.