If I "date" anymore I'm gonna go broke

[vinn_rock]

Originally Posted by bonehead2

OK, so I have tried dating, you know, the old fashioned way. I joined match.com. That site is a trip. The women on there think they are God's gift and they are 5's and 6's at best. I have easily spent $1000 in the last month on dates, and have gotten no where. These women want the most for the least. $180 sushi dinner, $40 on drinks at the bar and a peck good night. Well, for $220, I was expecting more than a peck.
Second girl, took her to Big Bear. Well, don't get me started on gas, food, lifts, and rentals. Says she wants to wait until marriage for sex (well, thats because you are from Denmark and need a green card, fast!) I am done with "dating." I would rather spend my money on myself plus a little left over for an extremely well worth it foot massage at the least!

I've seen such mixed results from dating sites. I have friends who are in serious relationships and female friends who find dudes that only want to hit it and quit. If I was single, I'd go about it the old fashioned way... meet chicks at the bar, club, through friends, even at work.

[asiansam]

Originally Posted by vinn_rock

I've seen such mixed results from dating sites. I have friends who are in serious relationships and female friends who find dudes that only want to hit it and quit. If I was single, I'd go about it the old fashioned way... meet chicks at the bar, club, through friends, even at work.

Personally, I think dating providers is a step up from dating skanks you meet in a bar or a club. At work is dangerous ("don't shit where you eat"). Referrals from friends or relatives? Well, it worked for me. I guess finding someone through mutually enjoyed interests is probably a good idea. Church would work too, if you can keep awake during the sermons... LOL

[needasianspinner]

I have gotten involved with women I work with two times. We were both single so no taboo there. But the colleagues don't like it when it is going well, and they like it less after it goes South. I regretted it both times. It is easy to make that happen, but just not worth it.

[vinn_rock]

Originally Posted by asiansam

Personally, I think dating providers is a step up from dating skanks you meet in a bar or a club. At work is dangerous ("don't shit where you eat"). Referrals from friends or relatives? Well, it worked for me. I guess finding someone through mutually enjoyed interests is probably a good idea. Church would work too, if you can keep awake during the sermons... LOL

To each their own. The work thing is different for each case. I worked at an ad agency, and everyone was young, good-looking and hooked up. About 40 people there, and I had a great relationship come out of that. Currently, my building has 400 employees, and I've dated a few chicks from IT, and another from a department on my floor. We see each other in the hall, and we don't make eye contact, so no biggie. My current live-in chick was the secretary at my last place of work. In some workplaces, I wholeheartedly agree, but it's hard to generalize by saying "don't do it".

Skanks at bars and clubs? Dives maybe, but I never understood that mentality. The bars and clubs I go to range from mid to high-end, and a lot of these girls are self-made and/or just good girls. And they're there to meet people! Plenty of chicks that make good cash and their timid little friends who are certainly dateable. It's about being selective even in that environment.

[gigabyte]

This thread is awesome! It cracks me up. My last "date" was meeting a lady from the free site POF - Plenty of Fish. I just walked across the street to a bar and just bought a round of drinks. In that short time I found out that she had dated a guy who was wealthy but spent time in prison. She was married once a long time ago, and that guy went to prison. I am thinking why did you ask me out? I better get out of here before I get jailed!

So the last gal before this lady was a gal who chatted me up on MySpace, so it was a while ago. She was nice I was attracted to her and on the 3rd date we finally had sex, she was all into it and very vocal, problem is she came and I didn't. The evening ended with her saying she needed to change her status to "in a relationship" - help! We got together 3 more times and I just wasn't into it. I said I thought she was nice but I was wondering if she noticed that in all of our sex play I had never climaxed? Nope she never noticed. No more dating for sexual favors.

Off and on over a couple of years she and I just went to movies together. I always noticed how much friendlier she was after I added a meal etc. One day I just put her phone number into google and guess what came up? There it was, the phone number came up in online yellow page ads under escorts! I knew about this for maybe 18 months and six more movies most of which we went dutch. Then one day she asked me why I wasn't available much anymore. So I told her "Google your phone number". She went ballistic! I have never been called so many dirty names in my life. How the F did you ever think of doing that?!!! Dirty name, derogatory comments about my physique, more dirty names... on and on. So I knew she was only hoping I would buy movies and dinners even though I had proof she was a pro at getting paid to go out. I never accused her of having sex for money but she assumed all kinds of things I had not said merely because I pointed her at public information. Women are nuts!!!

[hypemkt]

Originally Posted by bonehead2

OK, so I have tried dating, you know, the old fashioned way. I joined match.com. That site is a trip. The women on there think they are God's gift and they are 5's and 6's at best. I have easily spent $1000 in the last month on dates, and have gotten no where. These women want the most for the least. $180 sushi dinner, $40 on drinks at the bar and a peck good night. Well, for $220, I was expecting more than a peck.
Second girl, took her to Big Bear. Well, don't get me started on gas, food, lifts, and rentals. Says she wants to wait until marriage for sex (well, thats because you are from Denmark and need a green card, fast!) I am done with "dating." I would rather spend my money on myself plus a little left over for an extremely well worth it foot massage at the least!

They are gold diggers and match.com is the perfect setup for them to drain you

[hypemkt]

Originally Posted by bradlee3286

that's funny, women nowadays are so focused on "self" I think they would rather be alone then be with someone less than their ideal "guy" who probably needs to walk on eggshells and do everything for them. My brother married a gal he dated for several years ,had a $60,000 wedding, a yr. later she said "I don't want to be married anymore", was always going out w girlfriends- bars, clubs and even flirted with waiters WITH my brother at the same table, WTF??, she also thought she was god's gift (like a 6.5-7), another 50% my friends are divorced, so it just goes to show you everybody is just into themselves and when they don't get the attention they think they deserve they just say "F- it, see ya later", I guess if everybody knows that (men and women) we could just use each other for sex and occasional intellectual companionship, but where it hurts if you want to have kids/family- so who the f--- knows!!

You are so on point...but some of us men act so desperate to be with a woman that in the end they get treated like shit..Unfortunately it's a game and you can't take any of it personal

[hypemkt]

Originally Posted by aloha21

Didnt you see the show on tv regarding the chicks on these sites?

Many of them feed themselves at fancy places on your dime and then dump you.

Actually pretty smart on their part.

So true..but how do we flip it on em

[hypemkt]

Originally Posted by Sir Lynx A Lot

Hahaa... That is so hilarious... And yet so true! Danish girls are... for one, CLEAN as a whistle, and most are EXTREMELY open minded!!!

I know what you mean though about spending the dough... I think if you're away from dating for a while and then jump right into it, we tend to want to over-impress... To us, its simply the hook, and yet to the greedy hoes out there, you and I would be the type they'd use, abuse and refuse...

You can of course tone it down a bit and not go overboard and flash too much. That way you're not raising a flag saying "I'm a spender"... This will attract less abusers and hopefully more down to earth ladies that are worth your time and money!

Good luck!

Now you've got me thinking...I've got to find a Danish girl!

[MPkid]

Originally Posted by hypemkt

So true..but how do we flip it on em

I did a ton of dating on Match.com and didn't meet anything above a 6. I was in my early 40's at the time so I was mostly getting to meet 35-40+ year old women. Several of them put out but weeding through all of the emails and BS associated with online dating here in USA was a tiresome chore.

One way to flip it on them I use to do was set up meetings after 9 PM (give them the ol' I have to work late excuse) somewhere low key for drinks. If I had good fun flirty conversations with them before meeting and I could tell they had a sense of humor I would flat out say I have to work late so have one of those losers from Match take you out for dinner and we can meet up for drinks after...if they are cool they will get it right away that you are not going to be the "buy dinner" guy. I have a 3 date rule...not what you think. 3 dates in 1 night! Grab a drink somewhere and if it goes well tell her you want to take her for some quick dessert. Go somewhere else and share a simple dessert. If things are still going well and you're still interested enough (which is always doubtful if they are anything like the ones I met on Match) tell her you want to have a cup of tea (never say coffee) and get to know her more. If you can make it through the 3 mini dates 80% or more will go home with you to watch a movie...which is code for watch a porno starring her!!! All total it should cost about $25 bucks if you make it all the way. If you want to bail after the first drink you're only out about $10. Pick 3 hip places near your house (drinks, dessert, tea...and make sure the last place is very close to your house) and stick to the same plan with each date. You might even get lucky with the bartender or waitress later. Once they see you 2-3 days a week with a different girl each time having 1 drink and leaving...they will wonder what is so special about you...then use the same plan on them!!!! LOL Most girls won't feel comfortable going home with you after a first date...but this plan kinda short circuits their mental programing and allows them to feel like they have been on 3 dates. Like anything YMMV

Another way to flip it on them is STOP DATING AMERICAN WOMEN! Foreign women are much better and have less hang ups about sex and dating.