I was indeed looking for advice. My point is, there's a balance to be struck, not too grabby and selfish, but not too sympathetic, either. And I'm not sure I'm hitting it right, because, as I said, I've been running into girls who want me to make their dreams come true. I think they run into so many jerks -- and, face it, jerking off guys in a small room for twelve hours a day in a country on the other side of the world from home, what kind of life is that? -- when a nice guy comes along, they want to see how far they can run with it. I'm sympathetic, but I'm not going to be their solution. So, you and sua gua are the masters -- the balance is the thing.